Good afternoon everyone.
Hope you are all doing well.
Yes, it has been a while since I posted anything on here. Reason being, I have had some personal challenges which I will be sharing over the coming days.
This post today is geared around change again as it something we all do and can do more of you if we do the motivation is there!
Over the years we change in many ways. We change in ways when our body matures and develops into young adults, we change emotionally, physically, sexually, personality – EVERYTHING!
A lot of change has to do with our mental baggage and our ‘back pack of life’ which makes us change as people. Our learning history puts everything into the way we often behave. Albeit for good and bad.
If there is something I know and that rings true to anyone is that if people want to change they can change. We can all change if we make the decision to change. Change is key for many of those that are looking to better themselves in their lives.
My good friend ‘Mr B’ I shall call him, has begun a plan to change. He is battling with areas around alcoholism and he has clear objectives of what needs to be done to make him change. Like myself – I have areas I want to improve and I will put objectives and goals in place to make these changes happen.
Everyone on this earth are capable of great things and achieving whatever they want to, when they put all their heart and soul into making it possible.
Remember this; Every millionaire, every actor on our biggest screens, every humanitarian that has worked with millions across the world. They changed something in their lives where they made a decision, and they succeeded in their goal! Making the decision to change!
If it is possible for millions across the world to change, then it is possible for me and you!
Here are 3 quotes on change to inspire you all now;
I will be posting a lot more frequent again now.
Thank you for following me and thank you for reading.
Great to be back and see so many have you have been posting so many awesome updates. I have been putting some new material on myself recently with some awesome quotes and stories, I hope you all enjoyed those.
To let you all know, recently I have been attending a small forum in Birmingham. This forum is a small group of like-minded people who share ideas on a weekly basis with each other, and come up with strategies that we can take away to maintain a better outlook on life and relationships.
We discussed something during last night’s meeting which I want to share with you today. Last night’s session was very powerful and I really want to share it with all my readers and followers.
I am sure that we can all agree that there is something that always steals our happiness and self-esteem, and it is called worry! Worrying about things that may or may not ever happen, worrying about things that we really shouldn’t be;
To be blunt, worrying is a negative thought – thoughts being an area we really stripped to pieces. As at the end of the day, it is only a thought! This can come into our heads totally uninvited and it can leave our heads as easily as it arrived. I think Winston Churchill quoted the real issue with worry “When I look back on all these worries, I remember the story of the old man who said on his deathbed that he had had a lot of trouble in his life, most of which had never happened”.
I know for sure that I have for many years allowed these thoughts to come into my head, and allowed them to control my happiness and behave in ways that maybe I shouldn’t have. I actually think that I worried about something almost every day – to be honest I am sure I still do!
So from this day, after digesting what we discussed last night, I have taken these 2 valuable lessons away with me that I think will change my life for the better, and make all my relationships flourish.
Lesson 1: 3 Minute breathing
This was something we all did last night. We sat in a relaxed position and we focused on our breathing, concentrating on the inhale and then the exhale. This calmed our heart rate and relaxed our bodies, we thought about our muscles, which ones were tense and allowed our bodies to relax them for us naturally. This we did for 3 minutes, thinking of nothing but the inhale and the exhale. In just 3 minutes you would be amazed at how you feel. It is a short type of mediation really but it gives us amazing results. If this technique is done properly, when we begin to worry about something, we can remove all negative thoughts. When you recognise you are beginning to worry, go to a quiet place and try this 3 minute breathing technique, I know it will work for you too.
Lesson 2: Focus on the ‘Here and now’
This is the hardest as we do this every day. This alone will take alot of practice and a good understanding, but if this is mastered I believe this can make us very happy and prevent us all from worrying. I remember reading Eckhart Tolle’s ‘The Power of Now’ last year and this book is all about living in the now the present moment. Not thinking about the past, the recent events or what is likely to happen. It is living in the now! Thinking about only the here and now is very comforting, it gives us peace and break from whatever troubles we all have to deal with. I read that this technique alone can change our lives forever. If we live in the present we are not being ignorant to reality we are just breaking it down and living our life as it is right now.
To be quite frank, I actually wish my life away myself all the time. Roll on my holiday. Roll on pay-day. Roll on the weekend. Roll on this evening so I can watch Game of Thrones (Which I LOVE by the way Ha!). We are always wishing and wondering into the future and feeling emotions that our past has created. I am going to work so hard on this going forward, this is something I am focused to achieve and hope you can too.
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